What counselling is

Psychosocial counselling is a process of professionally guided conversations in which we work on what is truly, truly important to you.

Shape solutions · Organise thoughts · Define goals · Gain perspective ·

The world sometimes throws Challenges our way that are too loud and demanding to handle on our own. Notifications, Ads, and social responsibilities further distract you from making room for the things that can make a real difference in your life.

In counselling, however, your needs and priorities take centre stage. Because #LiveLoveLaugh may look good on Instagram, but when it comes to what really matters, you need more than phrases. You need depth and genuine dedication.

How counselling works

Counselling is a co-created process that unfolds over a series of conversations.

Each of these conversations is a little different, because everything revolves around you and what really matters to you. Actual change ultimately happens between conversations, but I would still like to briefly outline a basic structure as a guide.

  • 1 — First Contact
    You get in touch with me to arrange a first, free conversation. If you like, you are welcome to write a little about what you would like support with as your counsellor.
  • 2 — Free Initial Consultation (30-40 min.)
    Once we have found a suitable time, we have a first, free conversation (by phone or online) in which we explore your concerns in a little more detail and find out whether I am the right counsellor for you.
  • 3 — Counselling Sessions (50 min / session)
    We then meet regularly at intervals that work for you for counselling sessions in which I actively support you in working through your topics. How many sessions you ultimately need is up to you — as few as possible, as many as necessary!

My areas of focus

I focus particularly on the needs of people in creative professions, queer topics, and singles.

Creative Professionals

As someone who is also a creative professional (UI/UX and web design), I know many of the challenges that are unique to this profession. I am particularly familiar with many of these topics from my own experience, which allows me to support other Creative Professionals through their crises with competence and as an equal.

Queer People

Queer people continue to fight for the recognition and protection of needs that cishet* people often don't even have to think about. As a queer person myself, I am particularly sensitive to these issues and offer a dedicated safe space in counselling for people in the LGBTQIA+ community.

Singles

We live in an amatonormative[1] society that discriminates against people who are not in exclusive romantic relationships. Not everyone can or wants to live in a partnership, and instead seeks fulfilment in being alone, community, and belonging. I support singles in finding their own individual happiness independently of romantic relationships.


  1. That is, the societal assumption that all people are happy and thrive in exclusive romantic relationships ↩︎

Topics for counselling

Life Design · Development · Everyday Life · Identity Crises · Transitions ·

You already know what you want to tackle next. Counselling gives you the space to focus on exactly that.

A wide variety of topics are well suited to psychosocial counselling. I have specialised in these in particular:

Mindful Everyday Living

It can often be difficult to make room for our own needs and desires alongside the demands of everyday life — but it is possible! Because ultimately, your everyday life is also the space you fill with the activities that bring you joy and fulfilment.

  • Establish a daily structure
  • Identify your needs
  • Discover spaces for yourself
  • Develop rituals

Your Very Own Individual Topic

As with so much of being human, the topics that matter most to us and occupy our minds the most often lie in one or more grey areas. Somewhere between both-and and neither-nor. Counselling is a wonderful way to give these deeply individual topics the attention they lack in everyday life.

Designing Your Individual Life Plan

Decisions for or against a particular path can often feel like one-way streets with no turning points — but they don't have to be. Find out what you really really want from life.

Overcoming Procrastination & Putting Plans into Action

Counselling is an excellent space to focus and to turn wishes into ideas, vague inklings into concrete plans, and ultimately into confident steps forward.

Setting Boundaries & Learning to Say No

Did you know that every No also contains a Yes? Because when you say No, you are simultaneously saying Yes to one of your own boundaries. But that isn't always easy — learning how to say no and how to effectively set boundaries around yourself and your needs takes practice. Learn to say Yes to yourself by saying No when it matters.

Happy & Fulfilled as a Single Person

Many people base their life plans around finding a partner and put off dreams or goals until the “right” person comes along. But what if you could make the most of your life right now, without having to wait? Allow yourself to shape your life on your own terms and in a way that feels fulfilling.

Counselling tools

Systemic counselling is characterised, among other things, by the wide variety of tools at its disposal.

Ultimately, you decide which approach is best for you and for the particular topic you're working on.

Structural Constellations

Constellations allow us to zoom out from complex topics, giving us a better overview and potentially allowing us to gain entirely new insights. We work with a variety of materials that can be used for the constellation.

Solution-Focused Approach

Solutions aren't necessarily connected to the problem itself — by shifting our focus more towards the solution, the next steps and those that follow can sometimes become dramatically easier. Because: “Problem talk creates problems, Solution talk creates solutions.”, Steve de Shazer.

Externalisation

This method from narrative therapy allows us to bring internal, often difficult-to-grasp topics outward, making it possible to engage in a direct dialogue with them. This also allows us to gradually approach things that are particularly abstract.

Writing & Text Work

Working with paper, pen, and the framework of a particular text form can have a profound effect on our inner world. Creative writing in counselling can be used to simplify complex things or to help anchor things that are particularly important to us.

Visualisation

The effectiveness of representing things graphically can go far beyond organisational charts and genograms. Beyond artistic expression, it can help us understand decisions, processes of development, and entire life paths more clearly or in entirely new ways.

Parts Work

A whole new world opens up when we begin to see ourselves as a system of interacting inner parts. Parts work is particularly useful, among other things, for dealing with ambivalence and inner conflicts.

Settings

To make sure counselling can take place in a way that fits ideally into your life, I offer a range of different settings:

  • In the Counselling Room (Vienna)
    The classic and well-established counselling session in a pleasant atmosphere in Vienna. We have our conversations at “Inner Peace”, a counselling practice in Stumpergasse in the 6th district.
  • Online (Signal, Zoom)
    For people outside Vienna, or for those who want to make use of the advantages of digital options, I am available online via Zoom or Signal. Audio-only calls are also possible on request.
  • Walk & Talk (Vienna)
    During the Covid pandemic, the combination of a walk and a counselling session became very popular, and many people still prefer this particular way of having a counselling session today! We meet in one of Vienna's beautiful parks and have our conversations while walking through nature.

Special Settings

The following additional settings are also available on request, but cost a little more.

  • Nightowls & Earlybirds
    Some conversations are better had once things have quietened down and the stress of everyday life is behind us. Night owls who only really become active after sunset can make use of this special option for online sessions until 23:00.
  • Home Visits
    This special setting is intended for people who are unable to leave their own home or find it difficult to do so.

Services & Prices

Counselling for Individuals

Systemic, psychosocial counselling for individuals. Prices are for individual 50-minute sessions.

Initial consultation* (Online)
free
Online (Zoom, Signal)
€ 55,-
Walk & Talk (Vienna)
€ 60,-
In the Counselling Room (1060, Vienna)
€ 65,-
Nightowls & Earlybirds (Online)
from € 80,-
Home Visit**
from € 85,-

Counselling for Groups

Systemic, psychosocial counselling for 2 or more people. Prices are for individual 50-minute sessions.

Initial consultation* (Online)
free
Walk & Talk** (Vienna)
from € 90,-
Home Visit**
from € 100,-
* Every counselling session is preceded by a free initial consultation (online) ** The exact price depends on the individual circumstances (time, travel to and from the location, or group size) Get in touch now

Contact

Call me at +436605591373 to arrange a suitable appointment, or email me at contact@thomassemmler.com.

FAQ

  • Do you also offer coaching?

    Yes and no. Under certain circumstances, my offering could certainly be described as "coaching". However, I don't particularly like using the term, because lately there seem to be quite a few people calling themselves coaches and publicly offering services that are not all that different from mine, without having any professional training.

    The term "coaching" is difficult, if not impossible, to distinguish from psychosocial counselling. One argument is that it refers to psychosocial counselling in a professional context. But if you look around on LinkedIn, you'll see that the content of these "coaching" offerings can rarely be limited to anything professional.

    So the answer is complicated. Yes, what I offer could be called coaching. But also: No, because what is generally referred to as coaching cannot be compared with the professional standards of trained psychosocial counsellors like me.

  • What is the difference between counselling and psychotherapy?

    Psychotherapists and counsellors share some areas of practice, but psychotherapy is the profession specifically concerned with mental disorders and other clinically significant psychological conditions. In Austria, psychotherapy is a regulated healthcare profession, with its legal scope including the prevention, assessment and treatment of disorders with clinical significance.

    This is not meant to speak negatively about psychotherapy. While the understanding of the discipline varies somewhat depending on the particular method or school, the intention of psychotherapy, just like counselling, is to help people grow and develop. And sometimes particularly difficult issues can get in the way of that process — and those issues belong exclusively in psychotherapy.

    One thing that can be confusing in English is the word "counselling" itself. Beratung translates directly to "counselling", but in English, counselling is often used interchangeably with "therapy". In German, and particularly in Austria, there is a much clearer distinction: Beratung and Psychotherapie are separate professional fields, with different scopes of practice and different legal frameworks. So when I say "counselling", I am deliberately not referring to psychotherapy or mental health treatment.

    TLDR

    This may sound a little complicated, so concretely: the following topics can be secondary subjects in counselling sessions, but we cannot offer any treatment for them:

    • Personality disorders (Borderline, Bipolar, Histrionic, Narcissistic, etc.)
    • Depression
    • Eating disorders
    • Obsessive-compulsive disorders
    • Addiction
    • Trauma & Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

    Counselling can also support you with these topics, but we are not permitted to treat them.

  • I can't afford counselling, can you still help me?

    Our professional code requires us as Life and Social Counsellors to charge a standard industry rate in order to prevent wage dumping. However, there is room for reduced rates for people in financial need.

    Don't hesitate to get in touch with me anyway, and we'll find a way for you to get the support you need.